For each of the following questions,
select the answer that best applies to you.
*1. I often feel stressed over my teen’s behavior.
Agree
Disagree
*2. I’ve tried to teach my teen not to behave impulsively.
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Disagree
*3. I always encourage my teen to respect the religious beliefs of others.
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Disagree
*4. I sometimes restrict my teen’s access to television, video games, or the computer.
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Disagree
*5. I often get drawn in to shouting matches with my teen.
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Disagree
*6. I have always tried to teach my teen to maintain positive and constructive relationships with other people.
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Disagree
*7. I encourage my teen to live a moral life.
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Disagree
*8. I’ve encouraged my teen to do meaningful volunteer work.
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Disagree
*9. I come down hard on my teen when I find out he or she is engaging in risky behavior (like drug use, sex, or drinking).
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Disagree
*10. I try to avoid self-destructive ways of dealing with stress, such as drinking or taking drugs.
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Disagree
*11. When I make commitments or promises, I make sure to honor them.
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Disagree
*12. I encourage my teen to read.
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Disagree
*13. I am always there to help, advise, and console my teen regarding his or her personal relationships.
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*14. When discussing issues, I try to show my teen the same respect I would show another adult.
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*15. I try to make sure that my teen gets restful and adequate sleep.
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*16. When in a relationship, I often have trouble resolving conflicts with my partner.
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Disagree
*17. If I learned that my teen was a homosexual, I would try to be supportive.
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Disagree
*18. My teen is not a child.
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Disagree
*19. I often feel suspicious and accuse my teen of engaging in risky behaviors even if I don’t have a reason to.
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Disagree
*20. I frequently encourage my teen to express his or her creativity.
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*21. I set a good example for my teen by regularly participating in spiritual or religious activities.
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Disagree
*22. I am careful never to say negative things to my teen about other people who are important in his or her life.
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*23. I maintain good hygiene.
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*24. It drives me crazy that my teen won’t tell me anything about his or her private life.
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Disagree
*25. I encourage my teen to exercise regularly.
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Disagree
*26. Generally speaking, I trust my teen’s judgment when it comes to risky behaviors.
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Disagree
*27. I exercise regularly.
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*28. I’ve never hit my teen.
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Disagree
*29. I try to teach my teen constructive ways of reducing and managing stress.
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*30. If I learned that my teen daughter was pregnant, I would try to be supportive.
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Disagree
*31. I sometimes threaten to take away my teen’s property, such as his or her cell phone.
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*32. When I set rules for my teen, I usually enlist his or her help in both making the rules and in specifying the consequences for breaking them.
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Disagree
*33. I try to get involved in healthful outdoor activities.
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Disagree
*34. When in a relationship, I often have trouble communicating with my partner.
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Disagree
*35. I make sure my teen isn’t falling behind in school by helping with his or her homework and doing the assignments completely if need be.
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Disagree
*36. I think about and plan for the future.
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Disagree
*37. When I penalize my teen, I always make sure that he or she has some way to earn back what was lost.
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Disagree
*38. I generally treat my teen like an adult.
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Disagree
*39. To keep my teen away from dangerous household items (such as liquor or prescription drugs or power tools), I’ve threatened severe punishment for going near them.
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Disagree
*40. I’m generally willing to give my teen more adult responsibilities just as soon as he or she shows me he or she can handle them.
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Disagree
*41. Out of concern for my teen’s health and appearance, I frequently insist that my teen eat only certain foods.
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Disagree
*42. I encourage my teen to look for challenging work experiences that might develop his or her fullest potential.
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Disagree
*43. I’m good at controlling my impulses when I need to.
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Disagree
*44. When my teen breaks a rule in our house, I often ask him or her to say what the consequence should be.
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Disagree
*45. To manage my stress, I regularly practice relaxation techniques such as meditation, breathing, or imagery exercises.
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Disagree
*46. To keep my teen safe, I sometimes forbid him or her from leaving our home.
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Disagree
*47. I always support my teen’s decisions, even when I don’t agree with them.
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Disagree
*48. I manage money well.
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Disagree
*49. To make sure my teen feels comfortable telling me about sensitive topics (like drug use), I’ve tried hard to maintain a positive relationship with him or her.
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Disagree
*50. Rather than hiding dangerous household items from my teen, I’ve advised him or her about their proper use.
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Disagree
*51. I try not to apply stereotypes about teens to my own teen.
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*52. To protect my teen’s future, I enforce strict rules about his or her personal appearance (for example, by forbidding him or her from wearing certain clothes or getting piercings or tattoos).
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Disagree
*53. When my teen and I disagree about something, I try not to talk down to him or her.
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Disagree
*54. I don’t expect my teen to perform perfectly in school—just to put in his or her best effort.
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Disagree
*55. I expect my teen to take full responsibility for his or her negative behavior—not to make excuses or pass the blame.
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*56. I often do things my teen asks for because I am afraid of his or her reaction when I say “no.”
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*57. When my teen demands that I help him or her engage in risky behaviors (for example, by buying him or her alcohol), I sometimes give in.
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Disagree
*58. I encourage my teen to maintain good hygiene.
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Disagree
*59. When in a relationship, I try not to argue with my partner in front of my teen.
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Disagree
*60. I plan and prioritize my life so that I experience less stress.
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Disagree
*61. To keep my teen safe, I’m very strict with him or her.
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Disagree
*62. When my teen does something wrong, I try to reassure him or her that I still care about him or her.
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Disagree
*63. II’ve encouraged my teen to think about setting up his or her own business or non-profit organization.
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Disagree
*64. I am always available for my teen when he or she needs advice.
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Disagree
*65. I keep a close eye on my teen—for example, by sometimes searching his or her room or checking the contents of his or her cell phone.
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Disagree
*66. I often find myself overwhelmed by stress.
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Disagree
*67. If I learned that my teen was dating someone of another race, I would try to be supportive.
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Disagree
*68. When in a relationship, I have no trouble apologizing to my partner or forgiving my partner.
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Disagree
*69. As far as I’m concerned, my teen does not have a right to privacy.
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Disagree
*70. I rarely get restful and adequate sleep.
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Disagree
*71. I always try to maintain a positive relationship with my teen’s other parent.
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Disagree
*72. I try to put a positive spin on things so that I don’t get so upset about them.
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Disagree
*73. I am open about sharing my religious and spiritual beliefs with my teen.
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Disagree
*74. No matter how busy I am, I try to spend quality time with my teen.
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Disagree
*75. I’ve tried to teach my teen to stay organized.
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Disagree
*76. I encourage my teen to get involved in healthful outdoor activities.
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Disagree
*77. When my teen screws up, I sometimes ground him or her.
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Disagree
*78. To get my point across, I sometimes need to lecture, nag, or shout at my teen.
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Disagree
*79. I often encourage my teen to tell me how he or she is feeling.
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Disagree
*80. I support my teen’s spiritual development through special schooling or other means.
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Disagree
*81. I praise my teen for his or her strengths far more than I criticize my teen for his or her weaknesses.
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Disagree
*82. I try to make sure that I always have complete control over my teen’s behavior.
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Disagree
*83. I will talk with my teen only if he or she is willing to speak with me in a calm and mature manner.
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Disagree
*84. I try to serve healthful meals at home and to encourage my teen to eat healthful foods.
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Disagree
*85. I rarely try to control my teen’s behavior.
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Disagree
*86. To protect my teen’s future, I always take an active role in every aspect of his or her education—for example, by talking with teachers or researching colleges.
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Disagree
*87. When I disapprove of a possible romantic mate for my teen, I express my concerns but leave the decisions up to my teen.
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Disagree
*88. I’ve encouraged my teen to choose his or her own profession.
Agree
Disagree
*89. I have trouble maintaining a positive relationship with my teen’s other parent.
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Disagree
*90. I’ve tried to teach my teen to prioritize.
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Disagree
*91. I often turn my teen down when he or she asks for help on something I know he or she can handle without me.
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Disagree
*92. I always aim to advise my teen rather than tell him or her exactly what to do.
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Disagree
*93. I have never sworn at my teen or called him or her a bad name.
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Disagree
*94. I sometimes nag or criticize my teen for not completing chores.
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Disagree
*95. I try to encourage my teen to think about and plan for the future.
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Disagree
*96. I keep my home clean and well organized.
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Disagree
*97. I encourage my teen to get good grades.
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Disagree
*98. I treat my teen in a way that is appropriate to his or her maturity level and abilities.
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Disagree
*99. I usually clean up after my teen instead of asking him or her to do it.
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Disagree
*100. I never participate in spiritual or religious activities.
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Disagree
*101. I occasionally struggle with serious bad habits, such as alcoholism, drug abuse, or gambling.
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Disagree
*102. I sometimes do nice things for my teen just because I love him or her.
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*103. I often try to find ways to reduce the sources of stress in my life.
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Disagree
*104. When I disapprove of a possible romantic mate for my teen, I forbid him or her from seeing that person.
Agree
Disagree
*105. To keep my teen in line, I have occasionally hit him or her.
Agree
Disagree
*106. If I learned that my teen was dating someone of another religion, I would try to be supportive.
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Disagree
*107. I generally get restful and adequate sleep.
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Disagree
*108. I’m determined to make sure that my teen will enter a specific profession that I have in mind for him or her.
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*109. I try to teach my teen to honor his or her commitments and promises.
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Disagree
*110. I often give my teen adult responsibilities like taking care of siblings or elders or fixing things around the house.
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Disagree
*111. I encourage my teen to set legitimate professional goals for him or herself, and I try to be supportive of those goals.
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Disagree
*112. I always provide adequate food, clothing, and shelter for my teen.
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Disagree
*113. I always try to teach my teen how to be safe when engaging in potentially risky activities.
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Disagree
*114. If my teen had a serious emotional or mental health problem, I would enlist the help of a counselor, teacher, or other expert to help me solve it.
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Disagree
*115. I make sure my teen is safe by giving him or her a strict curfew.
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Disagree
*116. I expect my teen to get perfect grades in every subject.
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Disagree
*117. I always refer to my teen as a young adult rather than a child or kid.
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Disagree
*118. I rarely encourage my teen to tell me how he or she is feeling.
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Disagree
*119. I encourage my teen to have meaningful interactions with responsible adults.
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Disagree
*120. I encourage my teen to make decisions for him- or herself.
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Disagree
*121. I always show my teen that I'm listening carefully by expressing interest in what he or she is saying.
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*122. I always try to support my teen's participation in legitimate spiritual or religious activities.
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*123. I only reward my teen with things because he or she has earns them, not because he or she demands them.
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*124. I make of point of paying attention to and praising my teen’s accomplishments.
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*125. When my teen talks to me about sensitive matters, I try to be supportive and not to judge.
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*126. I have a healthy diet.
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*127. I am aware of my teen’s extraordinary ability to learn new things.
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*128. My partner and I always try to agree upon how to parent our teen.
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*129. I participate with my teen in the celebration of religious holidays or other religious or spiritual events.
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Disagree
*130. I’ve taught my teen how to handle money, and I trust him or her to handle money responsibly.
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Disagree
*131. I never put down or insult my teen.
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Disagree
*132. If my teen did something terrible, depending on the seriousness of the act, I might enlist the help of a counselor, teacher, or even the police.
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Disagree
*133. I encourage my teen to work for the money he or she wants, rather than just giving him or her the money.
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*134. I always treat my teen as a unique human being.
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*135. Out of concern for my teen’s future, I insist that he or she practice my religion and no other.
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*136. I try to teach my teen how to solve problems on his or her own.
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*137. I'm always available to answer my teen’s spiritual questions.
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*138. I tend to interpret things negatively.
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*139. When it comes to romantic relationships, I try to set a good example for my teen by maintaining a great relationship with my own partner.
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Disagree
*140. I encourage my teen to clean up after him- or herself.
Agree
Disagree